Dear Waiting for Baby Bird, I come from the world's most fertile family. My Mom has four children, with the last born when she was 36. My Dad has five children, including twins born when my Stepmom was 42 and my Dad 52. My elder sister has two children, my younger sister has two children, and my brother has one. There is no history of infertility on either my or my husband's side. When I was younger, I was not a good Christian and did many things I was not supposed to. I proceeded to find God and dedicate myself to him. So, a question that keeps popping into my mind is, did I bring this on myself due to my previous actions?
On this day for the past seven years, my Dad has had a beautiful rose delivered to my doorstep. It's simply the sweetest gesture because it's his birthday, yet he thinks of me because it's Josiah Day, a different type of day I tend to celebrate. But while this selfless act is the sweetest, I believe the most thoughtful and encouraging aspect of this tradition is this: the flower is always a different color he strategically chooses.
Dear Waiting for Baby Bird, My husband isn't a strong believer and with us having infertility he wonders, "Why would God do this to us?" How do we grow together spiritually in this journey? Signed, Asking Why
Dear Waiting for Baby Bird, My question is, what age is the right time to give up trying to conceive? As much as I know that nothing is impossible with our God and we are still praying that He will bless us with fertility, being pregnant at 50 in todays world isn't ideal. My husband is 40 and I'm 38. While I know there is still time, I can't help but worry what if I'm not pregnant by the time I'm 45. Adoption isn't something God has put in our hearts and we are solely relying on God to fall pregnant, despite the odds stacked against us.
How did you accept the "morality" of IVF? My husband and I recently learned that IVF is our only option for conception. If we choose not to, my one surviving ovary has to be removed with all hope of baring a child naturally gone. But we are struggling with knowing if IVF is moral in terms of the embryos being babies. We are just torn and I need help understanding if this is forcing something that shouldn't be. I feel dumb for even asking, but I'm lost. Everything I find online in regards to religion is extremely condemning of IVF, which I don't think is accurate or fair