Waiting for Baby Bird

When You Crave Control

“Trying to be in control is exhausting.”

I had this thought while waiting in my vehicle for my husband to get in so we could leave for vacation. The entire morning, I was sweating, giving orders, and flustered. It was so much work and stressful to ensure everyone packed their toothbrushes, undies, and the right shoes for their outfits. But it hit me as I sat in my vehicle, thinking about how exhausted I was from the morning. Trying to control and perfect everything will leave you tired, worn out, and irritable.

Of course, I know this, but it got me thinking about life and the couples I minister to, and I even began thinking about myself. Why do we wear ourselves out trying to micromanage our plans and God? We run ourselves ragged, telling Him what to do, but then we’re still attempting to maintain control by trying to make it happen.

But what if we just… didn’t?

What if we actually believed and put our faith in God’s word and trusted that He would work out all things for our good? What if we prayed to Him, asking for His plans instead of telling Him what He should do with ours? What if we asked him for our next step and just did it and let Him handle the rest? I can only imagine how much more we would accomplish and how carefree and happier we would be.

When I think about why I can’t just do that with God or my family, I realize it’s pride. I’m prideful, and I have this false belief that my ways are higher, my thoughts are better, and I’m the only one who can do it and do it right. Ugh. It’s disgusting, really. But the first step is admitting it, right? But now comes the second step…making a change. Lord, empower me through the Holy Spirit to make that change. Empower me to let You lead my life, and also let my family pack their own toothbrushes.

I don’t know who this is for today…maybe it’s for just me. But one of our core values in this ministry is transparency. Without it, healing doesn’t come, and freedom is just a thought.

Therefore, sweet friend, if you can relate to this post or something similar, take a step in faith and be honest with God and others who are within your friend circle. It will be a remarkable first step in the healing process that will bring lasting change and hope within you.

“If we confess our sins, He (God) is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9

“Trust GOD from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for GOD ‘s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; He’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all.” Proverbs 3:5-6

With all my love,

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