Hey, there sweet sister.
Can I lean in and whisper something to you? It’s the beginning of the New Year, and everything is still fresh. I can even sense your overwhelming hope for the weeks and months ahead. I can still see you fist pump the air as you shout, “THIS WILL BE OUR YEAR!” And you know? I am right there with you! I am holding my pom-poms and doing cartwheels in the living room. (And feeling sore afterward.) I am hoping and believing this will be our year—the year of fulfillment.
The fulfillment of our dreams. Our desires. Our hopes. And our wishes.
But sister, because it is life, I also know that something might not go according to plan at some point in the year. An obstacle might come and block your path. Or perhaps the same old one you have been staring at for months or even years won’t seem to move. And I know that as time marches on in the year and events take place, pregnancy announcements by others are all over social media, and holidays fly by, all without the desires of your heart fulfilled, the hope and faith you have that change is just right around the corner? The excitement you feel right now? It might get lost.
It might get lost when Easter quickly approaches, and you do not have a little one of your own to give an Easter bunny basket to, color Easter eggs with, or purchase a new Easter Sunday outfit for church service.
It might get lost on Mother’s Day when you don’t hear the pitter patters of tiny feet come running down the hallway ready to serve you breakfast in bed, give you a noodle necklace to wear proudly, or a homemade card to display.
It might get lost when you and your spouse venture to the beach for a vacation. It will seem like a good idea to break away from the pain that infertility brings and reconnect with one another, but as it turns out? Your womb aches even more as you watch families enjoy splashing in the water and sculpting sandcastles together.
It might even get lost in the noise of your internal biological clock ticking louder as your birthday painfully comes…and then painfully goes all without a baby in sight.
It might get lost when the pregnancy test comes back negative (again), a treatment cycle gets canceled (again), or a doctor leaves you with few options for a solution.
It might get lost when your friend announces she is pregnant with her second, third…or even fourth.
It might get lost with a failed adoption match…enough said.
And it might get lost every day in early August when you check Facebook because your news feed will become flooded with the first day of school pictures, and you will want so badly to have a picture of your child to include in the mix. But you can’t. And so, you will sit there wondering if you ever will.
Halloween will also sting, as well as Thanksgiving. Because as you sit down at the dinner table, you will remember how last year you whispered to yourself that “this time next year,” you would either be eating for two or enforcing the rule that everyone must use Germ X before holding your baby. But as “this time next year” will come and go, you might find yourself still eating for one (although your plate might beg to differ), and there will be no need for the Germ X.
And I’m not even going to sugar coat Christmas. Because when the holiday season rolls around, and you hear a newborn baby cry, walk passed the baby’s first Christmas outfits hanging in the store, or look at an adorable photo of your niece or nephew sitting on Santa’s lap, a lump might form in your throat; as you try to hold back the tears. Your stomach might tighten as you feel your knees buckle. And it’s because your hope won’t just be lost at that moment, but instead gone.
Sweet sister, I don’t share with you these potential moments to cause your heart more pain, but rather to remind you that if any of these happen, and sister, they might, I want you to remember to go back to that fist pump; it’s the one in which you proclaimed, “THIS WILL BE OUR YEAR!” And when you do? I also want you to remember the feeling you had at that moment. The sense of excitement that anything is possible, change is coming, and fulfillment is at hand.
Please don’t allow yourself to forget it.
Don’t allow yourself to lose sight of hope as the year goes on, and change doesn’t happen. Or the achievement of your dreams does not meet the deadlines you have set forth. Don’t let go of your faith in the midst of bad news, chaos, and uncertainty. Don’t let your shattered plans keep you from making new ones and moving forward. Or unanswered prayers hinder you from praying without ceasing. And please don’t let go of this thought. The thought that your dreams, your desires, your hopes, and your wishes will one day by the grace of God come true.
Because no matter what happens in the days, weeks, or months ahead, the truth is this. Your circumstances can still change, miracles can still happen…and happen suddenly…and this year can always still be your year. But if not? Perhaps the next. Because I believe God planted this burning desire for you to be a mother in the soft fertile soil of your heart for a reason. And I don’t believe He has abandoned you with it. I don’t believe He has aborted it or forgot how to make it come true. He still has plans for you, sweet sister. Plans to one day have the desires grow from your wounded heart into your aching yet loving arms. So, please, don’t let go.
Don’t let go of this hope.
Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. Hebrews 10:23
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
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24 thoughts on “Sweet Sister, Don’t Let Go of This Hope”
I love this post, Elisha! I need to be reminded of my early-year fist pump momentum as time ticks by.
And I also wanted to tell you that I took your advice and bought a newborn baby boy outfit the other day, currently waiting on Amazon to deliver it. We don’t have a baby and we aren’t even pregnant, but I bought it as a step of faith for God to bless us with a baby boy, as I loved the idea you had about that. Not long after your post, I was listening to Joel Osteen on the radio and a woman called in with a success story of having a baby in her 40s when the doctors gave her a less than 1% chance. Joel suggested buying, in this case, a picture frame to put by your bed that would be a tangible hope/reminder/faith restorer to one day put baby’s picture in. I know that was a confirmation. I love when God does stuff like that—He makes it irrefutable that it’s Him talking! 🙂
Hey girl! Thank you so much for sharing this with me! I am so encouraged by your step of faith and even more so by God confirming with you that what you did, He so admires and will honor!! God is good and I can’t wait to see your lil’ guy in the outfit! You rock! xo
Thank you for being so transparent and for reminding me that I’m not alone. Like Marixsa, I keep little reindeer booties on my nightstand (per your suggestion!) as a statement of faith.
You do too?! That’s so encouraging for me to hear! Faith moves mountains! And your simple act of faith, could just be what is needed to move that mountain of yours into the sea! I’m excited for you! xo
What a great post and reminder to hold onto the feelings of hope and excitement that the new year brings. Your encouragement, faith, and positive outlook are very inspiring. xo
Thanks, girl! I just know how it can be…all full of hope and excitment but then Easter comes…Mother’s Day hits like a train wreck…the summer comes without any little’s to give Popsicle too, and the next thing you know? Hope is gone and it’s only July. :/
I love this! Thanks for this encouragement! Holding onto hope!!
please keep publishing!!!
Ahhh, thank you so much for your sweet words of encouragement! I needed it today! xo
I thank God for your writing. I just got home from my volunteer gig with Circles (nation-wide program aiming to build intentional friendships between middle class and those in poverty.) A mom announced her pregnancy in large group sharing time. Very un-enthusiastically and says “yea, this will be our sixth.” And I finally worked up the courage to tell my matched friend we were facing two years of infertility and he goes off about a comedian sketch about the likelihood to conceive is inversely proportional to your desire to have a baby. So NOT helpful. I can home and read this and felt enveloped by hope. I have a Christmas ornament that simply says HOPE and it’s the one thing I didn’t pack away. I need that reminder every day. And I need this to remind me to soak myself in Scripture and not idly waste my evening on Facebook. Thank you for sharing your heart and blessing mine!
Oh, hun! I am so sorry you had to go through that! But I just love your determination, your faith, and your strong desire to soak yourself in scripture. I know that for me, spending time with God, reading scripture, even plastering it on note cards all over my house, has been my saving Grace. I am praying for you today and asking that the God who is HOPE fill you with so much of it in the upcoming months to keep you believing that with Him, all things are possible. And that this desire He has planted in your heart, He will indeed fulfill. Hugs to you! xo
Thanks! I needed to hear that x
Thank-you Elisha for your encouragement! Even though we have never met and live on opposites sides of the world, your blog posts are such an encouragement to me in this difficult time. Thank-you for saying not to give up, it has been tough of late. God bless you.
Hey, girl! Thank you so much for your sweet words! This journey can be so tough but I know that hope in God and His plans do not disappoint. I truly believe that the desire He has planted in your heart, He will cause to grow in your arms. Hang in there, sugars! The best is yet to come! xo
I am adding my thanks for your frequent reminders not to lose hope, and to be confident in it. The other day, in the spirit of mindfulness I was noticing all the different buildings that my train passes by on the way to work (in London, UK) and just when my mind wondered to what might be and thought ‘that’s impossible’, my eyes fell on a big sign – it was a name of a pub I’ve never noticed there before, called The Hope.
Wow!!! I love how God spoke to you in that moment you needed it the most! He is so good! ❤️
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I was praying for you just this morning Elisha. Praising God for giving you such encouragement and wisdom and praying that THIS will be our year… the year of wombs filled and prayers answered. You are SUCH a treasure, my friend. God has mighty awesome plans for you.
Thank you so much for your prayers!! I appreciate it more than you will ever know! xo
I haven’t seen a Josiah’s day post in awhile…
I have been posting them as status updates on my waiting for baby bird Facebook page 🙂
Thank you for this amazing word!
Thanks so much, girl! Hugs! ❤️
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