Surviving Infertility Treatments: What I Want You to Know

surviving (purplewhite)It has been five years since I first stepped foot into my Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) office. And it’s been three years since I have been back.  So needless to say when I was approached and asked by Recombine, a clinical genomic testing company that works to help build healthy families, to join their blogging team and write about how to prepare for infertility treatments, I laughed.  No really!  I closed out the screen, walked out of my office, told my husband, and laughed. Because what could I possibly contribute? I am currently not seeing a RE and looking back on that day four years ago when I had my consultation, all I could think about was where we were going to eat lunch afterwards…

But after my laugh session was over and of course after listening to the encouraging words of my husband, I realized I do have something to contribute.  Because I have learned so much since that first day, that first meeting, and that first blood draw, ultrasound, and failed cycle.  And I have realized that my lessons learned (mostly the hard way), could be exactly what you need to know today. I don’t care if you are just starting out with infertility treatments or you are a well-seasoned veteran, I truly believe this post (that you can find by clicking here) will be of some benefit to you.  I honestly think you will not only laugh at some parts, but you will walk away with a boost of confidence, an increase in your boldness, and maybe even a little extra dose of hope to see you through.  So check it out!  And if you have your own tips and suggestions on how to survive this crazy, yet exciting and often times rewarding roller coaster ride of infertility treatments, I would love to hear them.  So please, don’t be a stranger!  I can’t wait to hear from you!

{In case you missed it, the link to my article can be found by clicking here}

With Love

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40 thoughts on “Surviving Infertility Treatments: What I Want You to Know

  1. Thank you so much for taking time to write a list of ways to survive infertility. Some I’ve learned through my journey and others are a really good reminder of what I must to do: set boundaries and do not lose hope!!! ❤ You really have touched my heart, my soul, and my faith. I'm so blessed to have found your blog and to follow you in on Facebook. You are a huge inspiration. Big hugs. xoxo

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  2. You, my dear, are nothing short of amazing. I just got out of an appointment to discuss my second round of IUI and this article couldn’t have been timed more perfectly. You always know how to speak to my heart (and so many others) and you always give me just what I need to hear in order to keep moving along. I pray for you everyday and I am very glad to have “met” you 🙂

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    • So glad this came at just the right time for you! I hope your appointment went well and that you have the peace, hope, strength and faith you need to keep you putting one foot in front of the other. Hugs to you! xo


  3. Great article. And I would say to know what boundaries are most important. I think there are 3 boundaries: time, finances, and type of treatment. Sometimes the financial boundary might hit before the time boundary…or you might hit the end of your time frame and find you still haven’t been able to try the treatments that hold the most promise for you. Great post!


    • I totally agree and I was going to include all three of those boundaries but I realized my post was already long enough :/. So I figured i would dedicate an entire post to boundaries at a later time. Got any pointers, tips or suggestions to add to that post? If so, I would love to hear them. You can comment below or email me at


  4. Thanks for sharing! I think those entering the world of Reproductive Endocrinology probably have a lot to learn from those of us who left the world before we achieved the “dream”. In fact, I think RE’s themselves probably have a lot to learn from us too. 🙂


    • Right?! It’s so easy to get all upset with them, but when I think about it, they are the LAST people I want to dislike me. LOL! Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment. xo


  5. Great article and so great that they approached you, even if it seemed ridiculous to start with! The boundary thing is interesting. I definitely agree it is good to talk about it and set at the start, but also sometimes there may be a time to re-evaluate and change it (as long as both of you agree). We always said we wouldn’t fund another full IVF cycle after this one, but I think we hadn’t been clear with ourselves that if it didn’t work we were assuming we’d still have a frostie or two to still try a less expensive FET cycle. When we didn’t get any frosties that was a shock and I think it would have been hard to stop and say “that’s it” if we hadn’t succeeded as we did, I think we’d have had a long chat to work out if there was anyway we could viably look to try again.

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    • I totally agree! For us, it was a different story. We had agreed that we would not go the IVF route. Nothing against it, but it wasn’t something we were at peace or comfortable with (and I couldn’t really put a finger on why). But needless to say, as we sat in another consultation room with our Dr. after three failed timed intercourse cycles and numerous other things that had been going wrong, he said…”You will have to do IVF.” And despite the uneasiness I had in my stomach, I went against our boundaries and early on convictions and I said, “Okay!” And let’s just say that IVF cycle was HORRIBLE! Not only did I have to take the meds longer than expected (so more money), but I also developed AWFUL OHSS (gained 9 lbs of fluid in 24 hours), and of course the early miscarriage I endured. Needless to say, I wish I had listened to my heart, my gut, and stuck with our convictions. I realize not everyone has the same story or similar experience. That is just mine. I think it is important to always re-evaluate and determine why you would be changing your boundaries and if it is something you can do and still manage to keep your peace. For us? I moved my boundaries, ignored my convictions and was left with heartache that I don’t think I would have had, if I had simply listened to my gut.

      How is that for a long response back? LOL! Thanks for listening! I think I just needed to type it out and get it out…not necessarily for you, but for me 🙂 xo

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  6. This is so good. I wish I’d read it three years ago. 🙂 I was totally unprepared years ago when I did the HSG test and the doctor (not even my own but a temp doctor) called and literally said to me,”Both tubes are blocked. They are diseased…don’t ask why. Just have them removed. IVF is your only option.” I didn’t ask her any questions; instead I fell on the bed and cried. It was only after doing research of my own that I discovered that her advice was SO SO bad! Thank goodness I didn’t listen to her… a year later my tubes miraculously cleared on their own! I also agree on talking about boundaries along the way. It can be a difficult decision but as time goes on in our own journey we’ve realized that we have some clear ideas of what we want and don’t want to pursue and it’s super important to talk about it with your spouse. Great article my sweet friend! You’re such an amazing encouragement to me!


  7. I think the biggest thing we need to remember during all of this, is not to stop living your life. I asked my RE about a vacation we’re planning for our anniversary week in October, and about flying if we were pregnant by then. He started out by saying you shouldn’t fly in the first trimester, blah blah blah. When I looked at him like he was nuts, he then said “But, you also can’t put your life on hold for something that’s unsure”. He’s right. We need to take time for ourselves so that we don’t lose our sanity!!
    This is a fabulous article. Thankfully, I learned some of this from all of you ladies before I set foot in my RE’s office. All such great advice!!

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  8. I loved your post. It was honestly a perfect list. I will never forget the day I first went to the RE. I was completely unprepared for what happened during that appointment and in the months following and it had a significant effect on my mental and physical well being. GREAT JOB!!!! XOXO


  9. Awesome list, Elisha. Really useful! One thing I’d add from personal experience is don’t let it destroy your relationship with your spouse! The frustrations – both emotional and financial could take such a toll on your marriage, if you let them. xo

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